Some people spend a lot of time finding fault in and blaming others. And it is quite natural for them to blame others for their shortcomings. But it takes a lot of courage for people to take full responsibility for their actions. For instance, we’ve seen many fathers typically shout at their wives, ‘our son/daughter has got spoiled because of your pampering”. Finding someone to blame for any problem is a favourite pastime for all of us.
When something goes wrong, most people’s first instinct is to blame their bad luck, pass the blame on to others, or simply lament about their particular situation:
It’s much easier to pass the blame and responsibility onto somebody else, so there’s no guilt necessary when no action is taken!
Making bad decisions is a part of life. Blaming others for your bad decisions is immature.
On the other hand, problem solvers who usually are successful people do face the problems and focus on resolving them instead of complaining:
Many times when people mess up at work, it’s very common to see them shifting the responsibility to someone else. Many of us have experienced an employee missing a deadline and trying to throw a colleague under the bus for their mistake, like: “I couldn’t get this done on time because she didn’t give me data on time, client has given so many changes, designer was not free, etc etc.” Everyone is going to mess up at some point, but blaming others for mistakes is not a healthy or responsible coping mechanism.
On the whole, blaming somebody/something else is easier and tempting, but that would work for a very short run. Instead, be responsible for all your actions and inactions. And, that would take you to unbelievable heights and success.